If I ever had to write a personalised rendition of The Sound of Music’s “Favourite Things”, I’m not sure I’d want to sing it in front of my mum. Oral sex features quite high on my list of my most cherished past times and although I enjoy both giving and receiving head, this blog post is all about how important I’ve come to realise oral sex is in my sex life and how it has become a big factor in decision making when it comes to finding somebody to settle down with.
I never actually use to be that big a fan of having a man go down on me. I use to find it slightly awkward and felt almost detached from the action, with him all the way down there and me right back up on the pillows, twiddling my thumbs. It was only when I started making porn that I realised how erotic having a mouth on your pussy could be. In fact, it had never even really crossed my mind before porn that oral sex was even a valid part of foreplay. My first boyfriend told me that he didn’t go down on women because he felt as though he was “bowing down” and that didn’t sit right with him. At the time I took this as Gospel and never asked again but now, I’m nearly 30 and a fucking Queen so if a man doesn’t get down at my altar and worship it then it’s very unlikely that anything further will happen between us.
It seems that there’s always an unspoken agreement in any sexual encounter I’ve had that sucking dick is expected. I know lots of women who don’t enjoy giving head but still do it anyway and yet I know plenty of men who don’t enjoy giving a woman oral sex and so they just don’t do it. I’m not a man so obviously there are probably plenty of guys out there not getting the head remit they expect but that’s your problem. Go elsewhere if you’re not being sexually fulfilled and that is why I am a sex blogger and not a relationship one. Life is too short to not be orgasming daily. Life is too short not to have somebody’s mouth on your genitals.
I’ve eaten my fair share of vagina too in porn scenes and although the act of giving another woman head did nothing for me personally, I could appreciate how erotic it looked on camera. This is because the act itself is very erotic, especially when the other person’s hands are gripping your ass, pulling you closer into their face, or when they moan as they taste you. In case I haven’t said it enough, I’ve had a lot of sex, but one of my hottest ever encounters came at the end of shooting a porn scene. I’d had a feeling that the cameraman was enjoying watching me fucking and so I was teasing him, really going for it, throwing him those naughty, sultry looks down the lens of the camera as I bounced on another man’s dick. After we’d finished shooting and everyone had gone off to shower and sign paperwork, the cameraman was so aroused he begged to be allowed to eat my pussy on the side of the set and so I let him. It was hot as hell and he didn’t even want me to touch him, just went to town on my wet pussy and it was incredibly hot, much hotter than if he’d asked if he could fuck me afterwards because it was all focused on me, like a reward for getting him so turned on.
Don’t get it twisted, I am not a selfish lover. I love to please and I genuinely do enjoy giving head. I just also very much enjoy receiving it, too. To me, sex is quite a basic encounter. Of course I enjoy it but anyone can fuck; there’s something very intimate to me about a man wanting to please his woman and the whole focus being solely on her pleasure. I’ve spent a good portion of my adult life fucking with men who didn’t even want to kiss me, so intimacy in a sexual encounter is now very important to me. Plus, watching a man eat pussy is fucking hot. Fun fact about me – I watch a lot of porn and yet watching actual penetration does nothing at all for me. The main thing that I watch is amateur oral sex videos and they do it for me every single time. Leave me alone, it’s my fantasy I can watch what I want.
To a lot of people, oral sex on women isn’t deemed particularly important – there’s no salmon and cunnilingus day – and a lot of men don’t do it on the assumption that it is “unhygienic”. I always find that relatively humorous, given that I’m yet to meet a man who gets aroused and then offers to shower before we get down to it. There’s not much about sex that’s hygienic and I don’t know if you’ve ever sucked a dick that’s been in tight boxers all day but please let me remind you that a vagina is self-cleaning. Not having a man go down on me is not necessarily a “deal breaker” – I would still have sex with him if he doesn’t lick me out and have done, many a time – but to settle down with someone who isn’t fulfilling all my sexual needs? I’d cheat. There is no doubt in my mind. If I’m going to tie myself down to one man for the rest of my life, he better believe he’s not going to be coming up for air at least twice a day.
So the real question is, if your man isn’t gonna get stuck in for you, could you stay with him long term? Could you envision yourself in a dry future, where his cock is talking to your tonsils weekly yet the most foreplay you get is a bit of a clit rubbing before the real action starts? If your man doesn’t sup from the furry cup (sorry, I know that’s gross but I couldn’t resist) what would you do? Would you forgo a life of sexual pleasure for the security of always having someone to share an M&S Dine in For Two with or would you wait it out until a real Cunnilingus King comes into your life? Let me know what you think in the comments section!
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I’ve actually performed more oral then I’ve received. I find it really helps the woman get aroused and enjoy it more then simply going right to having sex.
Amen to that my friend! X
Another insightful post. I believe oral truly affirms intimacy and ‘closeness’ within a couple. Having recently exited a relationship where mouth play was given but not received I can confirm that it does create an ‘imbalance’ in a coupling. Personally, I enjoy pleasuring a lady as much with the upper organ as with the lower provided she’s pleased and satisfaction is attained. I could live without fellatio if everything else in the relationship is dandy. But please don’t mistake this comment for pandering, getting sucked off is awesome! J
Agreed – it has to work both ways. I personally find oral sex very important in a relationship and really couldn’t settle for any less. X
Nile by mouth
Finally, a heartfelt contribution to the topic of oral sex.
Finally, a woman says she likes it and she wants it too.
I think it’s awesome to bring a woman to ecstasy through my lips, my tongue and my mouth …
A good text!
A lot of men should read that!
Thanks dude! 🙂
I thought I was the only one with such “plain” porn preferences.
For me it basically goes back to how I was brought up and ‘treat people how you want to be treated’ – why would you expect someone to do something for you that you’re not willing to do for them?
If you genuinely don’t enjoy it then I guess that’s one thing but that bowing down thing is disrespectful bullshit and why would you be with someone you don’t respect?
“Sup from the furry cup” made me laugh, Jaye. Which makes me wonder – since your own cup is almost never furry, is that the reason why you keep it bare? Do you find men are more willing to go down on a smooth pussy?
I’m lazy with pubic hair now, I let mine grow!
Couldn’t agree more
I think there’s nothing sexier than giving oral, there’s something so hot about a lady ‘opening up’ her most vunerable area to you and theres it seems is an endless amount of possibilities for success down there. The secret for both sexes when receiving must be don’t think of hygiene, shape, etc but just if the moment, commit to it, lay back and feel everything
Sex is about fluids taste and touch so go with it(but obviously don’t be a hobo with hygiene before!!!!)
So here it goes my 2cents.. oral sex should not be a make or break factor. That’s fucken stupid, intimacy should always be the deal breaker. And oral should only be performed in 69 mode. So that way both parties are satisfied. Because sucking dick or eating pussy just to fucken DO IT, sucks. And after a while it becomes emotionless like a fucken chore. But to be honest I’d rather fuck than eat pussy or JUST get my dick sucked. I believe I bust a better nut inside her pussy that in her mouth. And where intimacy comes in to play. When you’re both into the act and there’s kissing, petting, fucken sucking titties, slapping booties, ect.. I get much more into it than just standing over her waiting for the moment to drop my load on to her face , mouth or wherever. And same thing goes for me eating her pussy out just for her to come., It’s fucken pointless. That feeling of release needs to be shared. Like YO,,, we came together!!! And that is why I never ask for head unless I know I’m gonna get to eat her pussy at the same time.
Well you sound like a barrel of fucking laughs.
Great article Jaye. I’ve always myself loved going down on a woman but find it a selfish thing for me. The idea of me being able to pleasure a woman in that sense and seeing them get off is hot to me. I couldn’t be in a long term relationship were oral wasnt given and recieved. I’ve noticed lately in my porn watching habits that I’m more orally focused lol. Watching a woman after a guy cum continue to to go down on him is sooo hot. Anyways thanks for the read
I absolutely love oral sex and am more than happy to go down on a woman. I think a woman deserves to be pleasured as much as the pleasure I myself get from a woman. Sex and foreplay is a two way street. Men shouldn’t be afraid to get to work on making his woman feel good by giving her oral.
Each to their own and all that but I don’t see why it’s such an issue for other men to go down on a lady.
Please what scene is that? It’s for killergram where you have sex with camera man? Thanks a lot
It’s not in a scene.
Men who don’t go down on women almost certainly voted for Trump. That’s science.
I’ve always believe that two people should be satisfied that is a given fact. I couldn’t see myself not giving back what I have gotten in return.
The fact that there are men who would rather go straight on having sex without foreplay to me isn’t how things are. If you want to be satisfied and your mate as well why not do a little foreplay and then just fuck.
I would love to eat my girl out not because she is my girl or she gave me head it’s an unspoken part about being intimate with your mate and not some random one..
I’m all for getting my face into that warm pie just so that she knows there is nobody better than me.
Couldn’t have said it better myself! Bravo good sir. X
Oral sex is incredibly important because it is the most intimate thing two people can do besides kissing.
It also encompasses the whole body. A gentle tongue on a mundane place on the body can be more exciting than lapping your tongue like a weed wacker on the clitoris only.
I love going down on my girlfriends , and I start with their toes and end up on the back of their neck .
It is sensual, and feels amazing for us both and it’s a positive way to let a person know you love them without saying a word.
” I’m nearly 30 and a fucking Queen so if a man doesn’t get down at my altar and worship it then it’s very unlikely that anything further will happen between us.” – this made me laugh and go YES GIRL at the same time.
I thought this was a great article, really honest and funny but so true! I have never really liked receiving, because like you said, I felt disconnected…until I had a fling earlier this year and realised that the problem was not me, but the tongue just mildly lapping at me.
This was the first thing I’ve read of yours, off to trawl through your site and read everything else now.
I know, its funny how different people can bring out different things in us! Thank you for reading 🙂 X
i had to cum while reading this and wanting to eat you… twice.
Thank you so much <3